When you parent more than one child, it’s important to you that each of them feel the same level of love and appreciation. As one person trying to devote your attention to the needs of multiple children, it can get pretty confusing on how to make each of them feel equally loved. That’s where individual quality time or one-on-one time comes in. By making time to be with each of your children, it gives them that special bond that they need to feel important in the family dynamics.
Here are a few more reasons why it pays to spend individual quality time with your kids:
Discover Their Uniqueness
One of the first benefits to spending quality time with each of your children is you get to learn what makes them unique. When you’re dealing with more than one kid at a time, your attention can easily get diverted causing you to miss those special moments and talents. Dedicated time alone allows you to learn more about your child as an individual. You can discover what they’re passionate about and what they’re good at which makes your child feel appreciated.
Build Stronger Bonds
When you know what makes each of your children unique you can use this information to your advantage to create a stronger bond with them. For instance, if you find out that your child is into graphic design, you can find activities to participate in that would enhance their skills or simply entertain them in something they’re interested in.
Children don’t always feel comfortable opening up in front of their siblings – especially if it’s something personal. Spending alone time together, therefore, creates an opportunity for better communication between you and your child. Whether they’re having trouble picking up on information in school, dealing with a school bully, or having issues with knowing they’re adopted (click here for resources on talking with adoptive children), they can open up to you in a way they couldn’t if their siblings were around.
Boosts Their Self-Esteem
Another reason that you should be spending more individual time with your kids is that it can help to boost their self-esteem. When you’re taking time out of your day to have fun, relax, or just talk with them, it lets them know that they matter, they’re worth it, they’re appreciated, and you care. This can go a long way to boosting how they feel about themselves as individuals.
Reduce Sibling Conflicts
A lot of conflicts between siblings is in their effort to get attention from mom and dad. A lot of these arguments will be reduced simply because each child knows that they are valued, appreciated, and loved by mom and dad in their own special way. They won’t feel a need to act out because they frequently get the attention they need.
Parenting more than one child is certainly a challenge. All you want is for each of them to feel loved, supported, and cared for by you. Though it’s great to spend time all together, it’s also recommended that you pencil in one-on-one time with each of your children. As you can see from above this individualized time can go a long way into enhancing their lives.